Saturday, February 13, 2010

Breathing Life into Your Blog

Recently I have read many posts which give advice on the "how to's" of blogging.  Don't fret, this is not one of them (though I do have some thougts on the matter).  I actually like reading those posts.  Oftentimes they offer some helpful tips on how to improve things.  Who doesn't want to improve?  I especially like it when it comes from the author of a blog I truly enjoy.  It's like free advice on how to become better received.

There is, however, one thing I don't like about some of these posts that I have read.  I don't want to be told about what I should or shouldn't blog.  I already have my own parameters.  For example, (with this minor exception) I will not blog about my husband's ex-wife.  Off limits...for me.  Does that mean I will think poorly of another blogger who does chose to write about that topic?  Absolutely not.  In fact, I quite enjoy it at times because I can certainly relate to some of the situations.  Some people are very religious, and like to express it openly for all to read.  Again, not necessarliy my comfort zone, but not going to turn me away either.  Often there are some very thought provoking posts on the subject...and it doesn't matter what religion it is, or how they write the post.  If it's not for me, I skip it.  No harm no foul. 

I love my blog.  I love my readers.  I love my avid commenters!  I want to be able to write whatever I feel, and not have to think about whether I may be offending someone.  Isn't that what blogging is?  A space of our very own to share our thoughts?  What fun would it be if we were all cookie cutters of eachother, spitting out the same tired thoughts on the same tired subjects?  I would lose interest in no time.

One of the many wonders of blogging is all the different personalities behind the blogs.  Some I turn to and I know I will always get a laugh.  Some usually leave me thinking of something in a way I hadn't before...and others are just plain fun.  Do I love every post, every time?  No.  That would just be impossible.  So, on those posts, I take a pass and come back again another day. 

If you are anything like I am, and you have worried about your posts and what others might think...I say stop it.  It's your blog.  Your space.  Make it yours.  Give it a life by breathing into it your voice...whatever that may be.  When you write what's in your heart, it will allow others to really connect on a different level.  Some of my favorite blogs are unabashed about sharing anything and everything.  Let's be clear, I am not talking about this tired old line about blogging boldly.  I am simply saying don't censor based on what you think others may like or not.  You will never please the entirety of the masses...but those who do connect will enjoy it all the more.  I certainly do.



46 comments:

Elizabeth said...

Great post. I love the way you write!

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Deborah said...

Very well said.

MisAdventuresofMomof3 said...

True dat my friend ;)

Michele said...

Well said.
I say, to each their own.
Blogging, as with life, there are people that we like to hang out with, and those that we don't.

Stay true to yourself... the rest falls in place the way it should!!!

I "heart" you!!!

Jessica Crozier said...

very nicely said, and good reminders to boot!

sheila said...

Yup, so true, so true. :)

Sometimes it's a rough crowd, rough crowd. But!.....I'm here all week! Ba-dum-dum, lol.

I know I've lost readers before on certain subjects and also when I swear. But...whatever. Like you said, your blog is your blog and changing it to conform would be being something you're not. Right?!?

Blackberry Jam Cafe said...

Certainly on point. Isn't that why we each have our own page - so we can say what we want to say - that particular day? Thank you for stating it so well.
Susan

Shandal said...

Good advice!

Kate said...

I find this post to be highly offensive!!

Totally kidding, girl!

I am tired of the whole "blogging boldly" thing too.

Sonora said...

I agree completely! I couldn't have said it better. I have struggled off and on with this. There are times I post and don't get much of a response, but in the end it is like you said, it is my space to put my thoughts, take them or leave them. Honestly, I think that is why people like you so much. You are open and honest, thought provoking and entertaining, but most of all what comes across to me is that you are being you. I feel like I know you just because I follow your blog. To me that is the sign of a great blog!

We live in a Zoo! said...

Yes! Great post!
:D

Shell said...

Well, you know I love you. LOL

If we worried about offending people, there would pretty much be nothing left to blog about. There are people that will take exception to just about anything. So, I figure, I'll say what I'm thinking and let you see that this is me, for good or bad.

Drama queens mum (Kimberly) said...

I'm following you from Friday Follow.

shortmama said...

I couldnt agree more!!!

Carmel said...

Shannon

I love reading all of your posts.

*Jess* said...

Totally agree with you :)

Melis said...

And that's why I *heart* you!

Lindsay said...

Agreed : ) Very well put!

Margaret said...

I totally agree with you. I get tired of people saying what I should write about. I have decided that if people don't like it they don't have to read it!

Laura said...

Ugh I totally agree with you. I'm not a fan of "how you should blog" posts either, because yeah, it's your blog. You put it very nicely, you rock girl! :)

Amanda said...

There is a reason I follow you. And this post is why. Keep on rockin' it girl!

Diana said...

VERY well said. Same as the radio or TV, don't always like what's coming on so i change the channel, come back to that one another day. :)

Together We Save said...

Great post!! I love love all the diferent types of blogs.

Chocolate Covered Daydreams said...

That is the reason why I love the blogs that I follow. I follow not every single blog and honestly, I don't really care if I have a bazillion followers..it's just those that I do follow who always have something funny, interesting, poignant or much needed at the moment. There isn't any hard fast rules to blogging.

drea said...

I never knew about the world of blogging before jumping in. It can be pretty harsh at times, people not liking your opinion and such. But, I agree, your blog, your decision on what is blogged about.

Robyn{Lee} said...

Amen sista!! : ) I agree with everything you said! : )

Confessions From A Working Mom said...

This is so true! I think we all have to set our own standards; if we follow one person's cardinal rule, we would have thousands of blogs that looked and sounded the exact same!

~Elizabeth
Confessions From A Working Mom

3LittleMonkeys said...

Great post, great advice! I totally agree with you. I have just recently started reading your blog and I love your writing style!

Nicole said...

Totally! I would love to write about my hubs ex, but I am afraid:)

Desert Rose said...

Have you been spying on my thoughts :)

Christine:) said...

Can I toast to that? :) Happy Valentine's Day!

Nancy@ifevolutionworks.com said...

Great advice. I've always felt my blog was my diary. The things I think, like and don't like..staying true to me.

Faithful Mali said...

Exactly! That's why I read the blogs I do, because they are that person's unique point of view. Thanks for saying what a lot of us are thinking :)

lovemylevi said...

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jen said...

i have a draft that touches on this thats waiting for me to finish and post -- mind if i link you in there -- i was inspired to write it when i clicked on one of the blogs that i've had in my blogroll and her post for the day was "pet peeves" of blogs -- and just went on to criticize, rip on, rip apart - etc. on every aspect of blogs -- it was awful..and really left me thinking.
let me know if i can put your link in my post too -- loved your post!!

harmonysong said...

I agree! Write what you want. If people respect you they will want to continue reading. If they don't, you don't want them reading anyway.

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